Therapist - Can We Trust Them Anymore?

Can you really trust your therapist anymore? This question is something that a lot of my clients have found the answer is no. However I want to establish what I mean. First of all this is not a therapist bashing article. There are a lot of great therapists. There are a lot of successful therapists who really help their clients get the best results, however, the majority of therapists are pretty much useless. Did you know that the word therapist spells out "the rapist?" It has no relation to this article, but I thought that was interesting.

But seriously, let's talk about all these problems that are coming about and why so many of my clients are disgruntled with their therapist. The first issue is that a lot of therapists simply don't care anymore. Let's be honest, when you've done a job for so long, it gets easy to become complacent and not really dig in and try as hard to help people as you did when you first started. The reason largely for this is the clients sadly. The reason why a therapist may lose hope and not try as hard is because the clients rarely listen to them.

The sad reality is that a therapist can only do a good of a job as the client is willing to listen. The reality is that clients tell you, "Oh, man, you are great, your advice really helps." Yet they don't actually follow it and then out of the blue, they just cancel and say that they are still suffering from their maladies and that they are going to jump on to the newest magic cure that is out there. This is the shiny object symptom. The reality is that there is not magic cure and if you see a therapist wit this expectation, then you have unrealistic expectations and have set yourself up for failure.

What I've found my clients keep complaining about is that all their therapist does is comfort them and nod their head and go "uh huh, hmm, interesting" and then they just jot some notes on their pad and never show you those note. The reality is that a therapist finds it easier for you to just vent for an hour or however long the session is and you feel better by venting, but you keep on going and doing the same actions that caused all this stress in the first place, therefore you can find yourself seeing your therapist for years.

This is good for the therapist because they get a lot of business, but it's bad for you because you never really get better, you just get a temporary release while never addressing the main issue. However I don't blame the good therapists that care because most of the time their clients won't let them help them. They will actually try to tell the therapist how to help them. So the therapist says, "fine, I'll just listen, I get paid anyway." If you want to get the most out of your therapist, make sure to limit your venting, then shut up and make them talk and try their advice to the "T." This will determine whether you have a good therapist or not. I have prepared some powerful OCD and anxiety and mental health information for you below, enjoy!